Etiquette Guidelines to Address Your Envelopes

Married couple, different sex, same last name

Mr. and Mrs. Jane  Doe
or
Mr. John and Mrs. Jane Doe

Married couple, same sex, same last name

Mrs. Jane and Mrs. Deborah Doe
or
The Mesdames Jane and Deborah Doe

Mr. John and Mr. Adam Doe
or
The Mssrs. John and Adam Doe

 

Married couple, different sex, different last names
Mr. Joe Smith and Mrs. Jane Doe

Married couple, same sex, same last name

Mrs. Jane and Mrs. Deborah Doe

Married couple, same sex, different last names

Ms. Jane Doe and Ms. Deborah Smith

Married couple and their children (Under 18) (sane rules as above for parents/guardians)

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe
Carolyn, Julie, and William

or

The Doe Family

Married couple and their children over 18

Children over 18 should receive their own invitation, addressed separately 

Unmarried couple

Ms. Jane Doe and Mr. Joe Smith

Non-binary guests

Mx. Jane Doe

Mx. Jane Doe and Mx. Joe Smith

For a guest with a plus-one

Ms. Jane Doe and Guest

A widowed woman or man

Ask a loved one if the woman would prefer to be referred to by her married name or her late husband’s name

Married name: Mrs. Jane Doe

Husband’s name: Mrs. Joe Smith

For a guest with a plus-one

Ms. Jane Doe and Guest

For a guest with a plus-one

Ms. Jane Doe and Guest

For a guest with a plus-one

Ms. Jane Doe and Guest

Two married Doctors

The Doctors John and Jane Doe

Different sex married couple, woman is a doctor who uses married last name

Dr. Jane and Mr. John Doe